Working the Relationship

I sit across the table from two of my closest friends, wondering why? How does something on the surface that looked so strong for so long, now be a broken mirage or a shadow of its former self.
Pain, trust and ultimately love are the key components of any serious adult relationship. While not being an expert, I have a hard time with the emphasis on sex in a committed love relationship. Sex can be awkward at times and dutiful at others.
Sex has a way of being the catalyst for the demise of a couple. If it’s made it to the adultery stage then there were likely warning signs so evident that the same blind love that moved both parties at the relationships inception, become the same blinders during this tumultuous and non-serendipitous time.
Relationships have been based on controllable factors, kids, school, finances, timing, change and other life responsibilities. There are also uncontrollable factors, like raw animalistic heat, positive energy and deep attraction physical - both emotional and intellectual. These factors have always had to work in conjunction with each other
Couples being right for each other find a away to move forward and show a willingness to succeed.
People need to feel needed, but when kids and family dynamics change, needs for both change and only together will couples find that balance or "euphoric glow".
Perfection is unattainable and bumps along the road are almost inevitable. Couples need to strive through these road blocks, rise above their own egos and go beyond their personal comfort levels to create something worth working at. This is not something that comes from dreams and hallucinations.
I have never subscribed to the belief that being apart is a great remedy to aid healing. Be
together or don’t. Your love and where the relationship stands should be only a concern of the couple in question: you.
Love is not a masquerade . It’s not some circus to be viewed as entertainment like the latest reality show. Love is private and personal and how it’s dealt with should be individually motivated and respected by everyone who bear witness.